Form or Goal?

When deciding on something, do you pursue the form or the goal?

“I will buy an iPad because I love Apple”

“I will become a call center agent after I graduate, that’s the fastest way to having a career after I graduate”

“I need to go abroad, my family needs money to live”

“I have been attending this church since I was born. Why would I try others that they say would benefit me?”

Form or goal?

In buying a gadget, the form are brands, the goal is usability.

In establishing a career, the form is your job, the goal is being able to use your unique passion in pursuing the kind of work designed for you.

In relationships and family, the form is job security, the goal is love and togetherness.

In worship, the form is a church, the goal is God

In making decisions, the forms are almost always given emphasis. But in the long run, if we focus on the goal rather than the form, it produces short term pains and long term gains.

GAP Jeans for your early Christmas shopping

I’m Arnold, your friendly neighborhood web guy. I love technology, I love the internet. And I love to sell — online.

Not off line. Not my thing. But hey, I love my wife and I support her passion and endeavors. ;-)

So, here it goes:

GAP jeans for kids and toddlers, straight from the factory. Up to 70% off the store price. Great way to give out inexpensive but branded gifts this season. If you’re at Makati/Mandaluyong/San Juan/Pasig area, give Joyce a private message (on Twitter of Facebook) for details on how to see the items.


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Get a nurse for a wife!

Back in college, whenever I was asked to speak in worship services and had to make a joke (preachers, you know you have to), I have one particular favorite: “My parents were asking me to take up nursing. I told them, ‘Why be a nurse if you can marry one?'” And the nursing students would giggle. Ok, that’s a stretch, but I know they think it’s funny.

I never thought I was speaking prophetic words. Years after graduation, I married a

My 1 year old daughter is sick today. I mean, really sick. Vomited last night, poo’ed liquid. I’m almost in a state of panic when I realized, hey, my wife’s a nurse! She knows what’s happening and sure knows what she’s doing. She knows what to buy at the drug store, when to call the doctor and when’s the best time to rush to the hospital.

Today’s a picture of any day whenever my kids or even myself is sick. She’s our in-house nurse.

She’s not a perfect mom and wife — neither am I a perfect dad and husband, far worse! — but sure she’s taking care of the family, and that covers everything.

Ok, I’m just trying to give you a catchy title up there. Don’t go to the nearest hospital and pick a nurse for a wife just for the sake of having one. :D Married people know that marriage is far more than that.

This blog, however, is to honor my caring wife and my nurse.

Bringing the online world to the real

I have a little project to make. I don’t know if this works out. I’ll try anyway.

My goal is simple: I’d like to bring my online world and my real world together.

My youngest child is celebrating her first birthday on Saturday (Oct. 17, 2009). My wife, who’s in charge of the list, asked me who’s I’m going to bring. (She’s bringing her friends from past jobs and some college buddies). I thought, well, I have my friends from work and church going. But that’s about it.

The problem with statement is the context: you see, I’ve had these friends for years, and nothing has changed. And that’s not good. I realized that most of my interactions happen ONLINE and not off line. That makes me have 250+ Twitter friends and 500+ Facebook friends — that I almost always interact with everyday online — and about 10 people that I talk to off line (not exaggerating). Kinda pathetic, if you’ll ask me. Blame it on my job.

So, here’s what I’m thinking. I’d like to invite anyone who will be gracious enough to meet me and my family personally on Saturday at about 3 pm for my child’s birthday party. If you:

  • have not met me personally yet
  • … and I have been online friends for quite sometime
  • have a family and a kid to bring (he’ll enjoy it!)

… I will be honored if you’ll accept my invitation to meet me and be my offline buddy, too. :)

The event is happening at the beautiful DMCI community RiverFront in Pasig. It has free WIFI (so you can tweet about the party :D ) and a swimming pool — I will be sponsoring a swim for you and your family right after the party if you like (so, bring your wet suits).

Don’t worry about bringing a gift — I would just like you to be there. I only have one room for a family (of 3, including yourself), or my wife will kill me. :D If you don’t have a family to bring, you can bring a buddy with you.

It’s going to be fun. I promise, we’ll still talk about the internet and Twitter and Facebook. :D If you’re interested in this invitation, please send me an email arnold [at] or at my Twitter account: arnoldgamboa.

PS: Oh, and I’m thinking a Filipino would not assert himself. So if no body contacts me by Wednesday, I’ll contact you ;)