50 Shades From a Man and a Dad

My wife has some very wise words about telling people — kids and girls in particular — against watching the recent blockbuster “Fifty Shades of Grey”: they probably will be more curious and will want to watch it even more! And, newsflash! they probably have done so already.

So, since you most likely have seen the movie, here are some of my few thoughts as a man and a dad:

– What if Christian Grey is Mang Pandoy, the tricycle driver? Not cool. Not very cool. Being rich and cute doesn’t make abusive sex (or BDSM) cool.

– And, if you think “rich” and “cute” is a good catch, think again. Money can be earned. Pogi-ness can be learned. Both qualities can only allow you a few months into a relationship before it wears off and become unnoticeable. But respect, godliness and truthfulness are for the long haul. I always tell this to the singles at our church: don’t settle for less. You are far more valuable as a child of God to settle for anything less than a godly, honorable man that you deserve.

– Christian Grey needs some serious counseling. And if you find him cool, you need some, too. Seriously. I’m saying that without any trace of sarcasm, rather with honest concern.

– Yes, signing a contract before having sex is cool. The one you sign in front of your relatives and friends. But I’m not just talking about a typical contract. I’m talking about a covenant. The one you agree to “bond” you together for better or for worse in front of God. You know where I’m going with this.

– Sex is fun. Sex should be fun. But, I’m saying this as a married man and a dad to girl that will soon be a lady in a few years and not as a youth leader or counselor: wag muna, wait until you’re married. The fear, guilt, shame and uncertainty is not worth it.

A few related, very useful links:

Here’s a message series we did at LifeChurch, a Christian Church in Makati CBD about love and sex – “Love Song“. Watch the videos. Your 30-minutes will be well worth it.

A Psychiatrist’s Letter to Young People About 50 Shades of Grey – I thought this one is a very informed advice from a professional.

Do you want to attend Chinkee Tan’s “Power of Change” for free?

The Power of Change, Chinkee Tan’s seminar  is happening this Saturday, January 31! This seminar cost at a small fee of P599+VAT.

BUT — I’m going to be sponsoring 2 attendees to attend this seminar for FREE! Here’s what we need to do:

1. You are you reading this and we’re not really personally acquainted (yet), you’re qualified. :D

2. Send me an email to arnold.gamboa[@]gmail[dot]com and let me know why you need to attend this seminar.

I’ll be sending back an email invitation to you if you are chosen. (If you’re not chosen, that doesn’t mean that your reason is not good enough. It is because I can only sponsor 2)

So, there. if you want to attend this seminar for free, send me an email now.


Chinkee Tan’s “The Power of Change”


How we embrace ‘change’ makes a the difference. Change is inevitable; it is also powerful that it can make or break you. But, you have the power to deal and adapt with change the right way. Instead of facing change with fear, welcome it as an opportunity to expand yourself, and to move from being stagnant to vibrant.

Join The POWER OF CHANGE by Chinkee Tan. He will walk with you and help you understand the process of change. He will also show you that there is so much power in change that if you’ll learn to embrace it, you will progress, find new perspective, and experience breakthroughs-your life will never be the same again.

Get inspired, renewed, and empowered as you unfold the exciting yet amazing process of CHANGE! Sign up today for The Power of Change on January 31, 2015, 1:00 PM to 5:00 PM at Holiday Inn and Suites, Ayala Center, Makati City.

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Saved as an example

The saying is trustworthy and deserving of full acceptance, that Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners, of whom I am the foremost. But I received mercy for this reason, that in me, as the foremost, Jesus Christ might display his perfect patience as an example to those who were to believe in him for eternal life.

-Apostle Paul (1 Tim. 1:15,16), and quite honestly, this applies to me and if you’re a follower of Jesus, to you, too.

Visit Philippines 2015

Watching this video, I felt really bad. No, I felt guilty. With the line of beautiful places shown here, I probably visited and/or experienced only about 2 or 3. Not good especially if I live in the Philippines and is a Filipino.

Nonetheless, if you’re thinking about visiting a country this year, have the Philippines as part of your list. It’s one awesome place you’d surely enjoy. Watch this video and feel the excitement:

Remember, #VisitPH2015!